My Journey Continues…

It’s been such a long time since I’ve written.  But that doesn’t mean I haven’t been thinking about ways of using my blog to help others.  The last couple of months of my pregnancy had made it difficult for me to find time to sit down and write…or do much of anything to be quite honest.  (Just as the first trimester did, the third trimester wiped me out!)  Then I had my beautiful baby boy…so there was absolutely no free time, as I wanted to bond with this amazing bundle of joy.

Enjoying the little moments...

Enjoying the little moments…

Now that I am back to work and getting into more of a normal routine, I want to put pen to paper and continue what I set out to do.  In fact, I had what was undoubtedly a big sign, that my journey of helping others was not yet over.

I had taken 3 months of maternity leave upon having Baby Brandon.  Since I was returning to work the following week, my husband and I wanted to go out to lunch with our son for a “last horrah” before I had to be away from Brandon for most of the day.  If you’re a parent or a pet owner, you know how difficult it is to be away from your loved one for so long.  I commute to work between 3-4 hours a day roundtrip (due to LA traffic) so I would be gone from 7am to 7:30pm.  😦

While I was waiting inside the restaurant to be seated, I noticed a young lady who walked in to give her name to the hostess. There was nothing about her that set her apart from the others in the crowd, but I could read it in her face.  There was some sort of aura that connected with me and seemed familiar.  But she didn’t look familiar so I dismissed it because I thought maybe I was crazy with all these pregnancy-related emotions.

Well the wait at this restaurant was too long so we decided to try a different place.  My husband went to the car to get the stroller and I waited outside briefly.

You know when you’re in a public place and you’re so close to the person next to you that you can’t avoid overhearing what they are talking about?  I was trying not to eavesdrop in on the conversation going on next to me but I could hear everything whether I wanted to or not.

Two female voices were speaking and one of the girls was telling the other about how difficult it was to wake up every morning…to want to do anything…how hard it was to even roll out of bed and be there, at a restaurant that day…that she was still depressed and not ok.  She was stuck feeling this lethargic feeling and she couldn’t pull herself out of it…that nothing anyone did could help her…

As my husband brought the stroller and we loaded up Brandon, I looked up at the girls and realized that it was the familiarly unfamiliar young lady who was having this conversation.  I had chills…it was a sign…definitely not coincidence.  I was meant to hear that conversation.

I wanted to talk to her and tell her I knew her pain and I had been there…I wanted to hear her story and see if there was something she wanted to ask to someone who had been through some “wreckage” and now led a complete 180 lifestyle…a life in which happily ever after did exist.  I wanted to tell her it would be ok, that it was temporary and that she was stronger than she thought…that her journey had just begun.  But I didn’t want to be that creepy person.  It was not my place to chime in.

And so my journey continues…I have a lot going on in my life.  But so do millions of others.  That incident was a moment of clarity for me.  It revitalized my drive to continue my blog in pursuit of helping others find their happily ever after.  It’s not enough for me to be happy.  I want this for everyone because if they felt as empowered, whole, and truly happy as I do, I believe the world would be a better place.  My mission has a purpose and  if sharing my experiences and thoughts might help at least one individual who has lost their way, then I know I have put my best out there.

I want to be able to answer any questions or give insight to those who truly are struggling.  So tell me…what’s on your mind?  How can I help YOU?  Questions?  Concerns?   Please comment here or email me directly at nvokechangenow (at) gmail (dot) com.


6 thoughts on “My Journey Continues…

  1. It’s so difficult when overhearing deeply personal conversations in public places to know whether or not you should approach the person and interject yourself into the conversation. You really have no way of knowing until you have done it as to whether or not they person would be offended by the encroachment. When in doubt, if you are unsure, and as long as your silence wouldn’t cause them to be left in danger, not interrupting the conversation is best.

    Depending on the circumstances, though, I have at times approached complete strangers that were visibly in emotional distress and asked them if they were okay. Even if the conversations were short, they always thanked me for my concern, and sometimes were so pleasantly taken aback that, as I walked away, they would have a slight smile on their face for a few moments because a stranger cared enough to express concern for them. We all have a need to be on the receiving end of compassion, but sometimes, we just don’t want it from strangers.

    I feel for this young woman’s situation and her struggles with depression, because I too have been there, sometimes in places dark enough that I would prefer not to remember. And while it stings a little to identify with her having to fighting to pull herself out of bed to even make it to the restaurant, there is something to be said for her still resisting and fighting that urge to hide away and isolate…. even through that emotional distress, she still somehow got herself up and out of the house. And while it is true she could reach a point where she cannot, there is hope there for her. Even though I am sure she doesn’t see that perspective.

    So often so many go on with their lives as though they never witness these moments. Thank you for taking this opportunity to come here and extend yourself to others and make yourself available. One doesn’t do something like that unless it is out of genuine love and concern for others. You have a good heart, sharing it with others is the kind thing to do.

  2. I love you so much and am SO very proud of you! You are such an inspiration to all, and I know so many people will be touched and bettered by your open story. I love, as I do them all, your newest post! Brought me chills! Love you so much!!

  3. Essie…. Your blog is nothing short of amazing. It’s beautiful. I’m truly so very happy for you, your family, and your handsome lil munchkin. Thank you for sharing your story:)

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